Always Rushing

Our family has been extremely busy lately. My husband and I have opened a new business. That, coupled with Dylan’s first year of homeschooling – we’ve been busy! It was a wild summer, and a crazy fall! While we’re still working out our kinks, I like to think we’ve been able to strike some kind of balance for our family.

Why Behaviour-Based Parenting Misses the Mark

Why Behaviour-Based Parenting Misses the Mark

I’ve been musing about parenting lately, and thinking about what kind of parent I am, and why that is.  Is it deliberate?  A product of my own upbringing?  Am I the kind of parent I want to be? Well, my children aren’t perfect.  Although I’d love to believe they are, they do have their guises.  As does everyone.  As do I.  I always thought knowing that made me a better parent.  Being able to see their strengths and weaknesses honestly.  And, it is helpful.  But, in a far more powerful way, I have come to realize that having me in their court, is okay.  It’s good.  In fact, it’s great. I don’ think my kids are perfect, but I do see them as beautiful, amazing, deep and real human beings.  Little human beings, with the needs of developing people, but human beings.  Who deserve to be treated as such.  And, this is where “behaviour parenting” really irks me.  I know my children aren’t the most well-behaved.  They tend to be a little wild.  A little free-spirited.  And, sometimes, it makes them difficult to reign in.  Sometimes, it makes us challenging to be around (sometimes they are perfect angels, too, of course).  But, I don’t think I’d change that.  I really don’t. You see, I believe that allowing them to ask questions, speak their mind, and follow their natural curiosities is a good thing.  I want to support that.  I believe that going against the grain, sometimes, will serve them well, in the end.  I want to honour their interests, their desires and their hearts.  What I see, too often,...